You’re not doing well because of the high level of fake EQ

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are popular words in today’s society. With these two words, the reading volume will be improved, which shows that this is indeed a topic of national concern.

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however, there are more popular articles on EQ, and “anti EQ theory” and “seckill EQ theory” are beginning to flood the Jianghu.

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every time I set up a course of interpersonal communication on the Internet, I was always asked questions by students.

“teacher, aren’t you tired of talking like this? I feel that if I care too much about other people’s feelings, I will drag my heart down. ”

“teacher, I think strength determines everything. Ma Yun and jobs are people with low Eq. when you are strong enough, everyone is polite to you.”

“skilled use of shit related to me and you can solve 80% of life’s problems. Sometimes, you have to disgust others and complete yourself.”

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finally, I saw the synthesis of the above arguments in an explosive article attacking Eq. I think it’s time to write something to eliminate some misunderstanding of Eq.

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have high Eq. they are not really catering to others, but they are not letting go of themselves, disgusting others and completing themselves.

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high EQ is a kind of cultivation of human nature. People with high EQ can understand others’ emotions and positions, and realize their real needs. Through listening, understanding and adapting to other people’s emotions and feelings, maintain a harmonious interpersonal relationship.

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one day, I received a call from the old teacher h. she asked me to scold the students of the school psychological association because they messed up the psychological consultation room.

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I called the president and asked him. It turned out that in order to make the counseling room more warm, the students spontaneously used some things for decoration. In fact, this is a student’s mind, but also in line with the appearance of the counseling room.

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at that time, should students be reprimanded and removed from the decoration? Obviously,

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will dampen the enthusiasm of students in the community. Moreover, when you have a certain understanding of human nature, you need to understand that teacher h hates not students, but me.

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in recent years, the school performance appraisal is more and more strict, but h teacher’s work has not made much progress. And I and the students of the psychological community, making micro films in a big way, and winning awards in various competitions, obviously stimulated her.

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although I have tried my best to give her some credit, I have stressed the help of teacher h on various occasions. However, once Mr. h joined the team, he was constantly in conflict with others. At last, I could only keep away from her.

I think it must be difficult for you to understand my way of handling.

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when I hung up, I bought a picture of Freud and hung it in the counseling room. As a result, all kinds of decorations of students were not as dazzling as my pictures. After a few days of

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, teacher h called me and the cadres of the psychological society to the psychological consulting room and stormed at me when they came in. Mr. h pointed to my painting and wished he could tear it apart. Then he ordered the students to take off all the decorations in the counseling room. On the night of

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, the president of psychology and I said that all my classmates knew that I had helped them carry the pot, and they were very grateful to me. In the future, if there were any activities, the members of the club would support them.

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I smiled and told the president that there was no back pot, which was my pot at all.

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may be that their orders have been implemented and they have gone down the steps smoothly. The next day, Mr. h also appeased me with a little apology. Although the relationship is colder, she has no clear hostility to me any more, because she knows that every time she makes a mistake, she will drop the price one point, which will make my relationship with students closer.

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a person’s low EQ reflects that his thinking is a dichotomy, either catering to himself or others, unable to understand and solve your current predicament from a larger human space.

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, of course, what they don’t know is that they have high EQ and what is it used for? The high EQ of

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is not to make you become a moral “Saint” and a bad person in the circle of friends, but to help you develop a kind of ability to “understand other people’s emotions”. When this ability becomes a habit, all your actions will become a spontaneous action, which does not consume mental energy.

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if you can make others happy, it will inject vitality into your life; even if you have to offend others sometimes, you will have an accurate judgment of the consequences, so that you have the courage to support all your decisions. Sometimes, you have to know that it’s also a way to stop others from suffering. People with high EQ of

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can examine interpersonal relationships from a broader and longer-term perspective, especially the handling of a series of disputes and conflicts. If

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do not have this ability, people will not only offend others inexplicably, but also do not understand their own practices. They always put the responsibility to the outside world, will continue to regret their decision, and eventually the truth is getting further and further away.

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you are not doing well because you have “too high false EQ” and you understand EQ as “smooth life”.

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are tactful, and people who cater to others may not have high EQ: some people want to go to the top of their lives in this way, but they are betrayed, let down, or flattered all the time

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